Wednesday, May 30, 2018

A turn of the tide???


As a writer one is a sucker for idioms.  But this week seems special, feels special, and maybe ends up with lasting gains. At times like these, it feels like all the cards are falling in place and prayfully someone else does not put down the RUMMY.
            But then there is this old age maturity that values prudence over sudden bursts of good fortune accruing to long standing gains. Don’t count the chickens before they are hatched is a call for patience; which is more in tune to anyone approaching 50 on the scale and who has had my kind of turbulent life.
            Let me address the dead past for there is a belief that once you CORRECT the past the future automatically is course corrected. My mother PARVATHI is 78 with one foot on the grave. She did as much damage as an asura can do in life. I have a natural forgiving nature and “wipe the slate clean” mentality. I still feel helpless that I cannot do a thing to drill any sense into this woman. But I have learnt this lesson: Forgive her but don’t transact. In fact I don’t even look at her face while speaking; avoid as much as possible.
            pUsHpa is exactly similar. Even to store the images of the PAST in a better light is not possible; she is too egoistic and high-handed.  Here again my attitude is IF MY MOTHER and this SINDHI are trapped in a burning house and none to rescue, they will roast to death and I will not lift a little finger. Of all the worst things DESTINY has in store for me in this life and beyond, I feel an enormous relief that I have gone past these two stodgy irascible characters. There were the scums of humanity, the very pits, and so any other character coming into my life will be more a cakewalk than a trial by fire. These two are bank accounts that's closed; no point either depositing or withdrawing from non-existent obsolete account.  
            On 23rd May, I learnt that the interview at MINDLOGICX came a cropper. This
felt a hard smack on the head. This was my first interview in four years; they ran the entire sequence from shortlisting, telephonic interview to a personal interview at Bangalore where I met the VP and Managing Director. I felt the bird was in the bag and so this came as a bit of a shock.
            Then on 24th May things started to change. It is one of my special days in a long long long time.
            At 7:30 am Smita Narayan from my IMT days of 1990-92 called on my landline. She said, “I like your writing. I want you to edit my book. So as a hiring fee, I am transferring 50 k today.” She fixed a price far too high and paid the money – something I have not seen in the last 12 years since I turned a professional writer. This brought a lot of colour to the face, energy to the heart, felt that the universe had not entirely abandoned me. Smita also added, “There is a demand for good writers. I will speak to my celebrity friends and also ex-IMT people and see how best I can help you.”
            At 11;00 on the same day Arunanjali called; again a IMT alumnus. We passed out in 1992 and almost every one of them is a VP is a MNC bank or a Airtel or a Samsung while I never got started as a marketing fellow. I followed my heart and passion settling for a penurious peddler of words in a graveyard Chennai of a market. No cribs as long as I earned enough to bring food to the table; my aspirations never rose higher than this since my birth in 1969.
            Anu spoke from Hong Kong and she was like, “Smita was talking about you. I run a soft skill company both in Chennai and HK and maybe we can involve you. Meet my person there and we will take it from there.”
            I felt in seventh heaven. Two of my batchmate from the remotest past of 1992 called me up and said, “We have some faith in you and we will help you tide over in your hunt for a gainful occupation and earning part bit.” There is something readily resonating part in us when people from past come into the present bearing fruits and you are in need of them with the urgency of a next meal. As my Dhamma friend Mani Sir said the next day, “This is last ball six in a IPL match to win.”
            These two calls got me gloating and thinking: maybe I am not all that bad. There are unknown virtues and skills within me when I ran into TV Ramprasad the famous singer at Vishranti over a tiffin. He was the one who sent me to Abu Dhabi; and I avoided his face for a good couple years after the rough weather I experienced there from a devil called Mohan Natesan. TVR said, “Sathya, I am on the look-out for a soft skill trainer at Mahindra School. Would you be interested? Say 3 days a week and how about 25k?” I said, “I have not earned such monies in a couple of years and so will be glad. Thanks man, this news helps me save my M-90 for 2018.”
            Three good news in one single day is not something I have had since my father and mother copulated in the dinghy rooms at TSV koil Street in Mylapore in 1968. More was to come the next day. Paarvathy Rajiv is one of those FB friends and she seemed to have read my last post: the answer is SURRENDER. She wrote to me: my sister is in Dubai and is a recruiter. If you are interested in a career in Dubai, kindly register with her and she will find a job for you within a month. There is a small registration fee; but what the hell if it gives you some confidence and hope. I jumped at the offer and started daydreaming shaking hands with the Arabs after that conversation.
            The point of this post is this: it takes very little for darkness to go away. You could be trapped in a dungeon for a decade but it takes a little flame to light and awash your mind with light and hope.
            As a prudent man, everything can be washed away in a second. Smita may cancel her order in which case I have to return the money; nothing may transpire from Anu’s soft skill training, Ramprasad may not make a formal offer on the Mahindra School, and the Dubai thing may fizzle out. But for the moment, I dance with joy. I get to meet people who care for me and wish me to succeed. Maybe some prayers will come true; just maybe even my stubborn fate may see a resurrection.

Wednesday, May 23, 2018

The answer is SURRENDER


The Whitefield job interview tanked. They wrote to say: we appreciate and have regard for your skills and accomplishments but you are not selected.  To be honest, starting a new life in Bangalore is difficult and I even feel that a UAE now would be a strain on both body and mind; I am used to Besant nagar and I must find 50 k monthly income soonest or dispose off this flat. There are no heartbreaks.  I did my best and if this is my destiny, why should I resist it or make a song and dance of misfortune? On a lighter side after the Whitefield abortion, at least I got "Soulful encounters @ Bangalore" blog post for my expenses of money and efforts. 
            There are two lessons that is CRYSTAL to me: Love and respect yourself without a shadow of doubt. Two, Surrender to the flow of events. As I age I feel I have no right to even plan, let me do what I ought to do and bring in my best beyond which there is nothing to add or subtract.
            2018 is the year of anniversaries:
a)     10 years of Vipassana
b)     20 years of heart surgery as on 27th June. Seriously I never thought my engine would run so long given a million unresolved issues in life. Handling loneliness, joblessness after a heart surgery, I think I am SUPERMAN to endure.
c)      20 years of Swamiji’s classes and Theosophical Society. Now I visit TS once in 6 months and less than four classes in a year at Swamiji’s classes. But for a time they were my main source of electricity to life.
I also realize one thing CRYSTAL CLEAR: I am hero or villain of my life. Since I reside alone this is as recluse as it can get in nature. So any SUCCESS or FAILURE is 100% my own creation; my responsibility. Frankly I don’t like too many people and too much noise around me; but this silence is also getting to my nerves. But then remember lesson two: SURRENDER to what comes before you.
            I take my morning walks daily. I am grateful to TH Iyer mama who cares for me. I also value my interaction with Mani Sir, a recent friend from Vipassana. He is friendly and sympathetic to my flotsam status in life. Then there is FB for human warmth which I find in a Deepak Mehra (he says that I deserve so much more than just a newspaper column and middle class earnings), and so many others who have nice things to comment on my wry posts.
            I feel that there are many who read my blogs especially in THINKSATHYA and they do feel nice about it. I wish there was some money and some success somewhere but if this is going to be my script then let me not make it a 70 mm technicolour drama except take it on the chin. I am sick and tired of this wastrel existence of FB, television, siesta and even music and guitar start to grate.
            Things are lousy at the moment and I am more than willing to sell this place. I feel stranded like a castaway in an island on nobody's map and waiting for some angel or devil for deliverance to anywhere. This feels like a STUCK-UP WHEEL in the sands and I could do with some human or divine assistance.